As adults, we get to choose our spiritual practices. We can
respect and be thankful (or not) for the religious traditions
our parents taught us, or didn’t teach us. But the beauty of
adulthood is this: we get to choose. And what a blessing
that is.
Taking ownership and agency over our spiritual journey
matters.
We get to choose what we believe, how we interpret
Scripture, how we worship, what we meditate on, what we
believe about God and about ourselves. All of this shapes
our identity in profound ways.
When I ask people about their spiritual beliefs, I often hear
things like, “I was raised Catholic,” or “My family is
Pentecostal,” and sometimes, “I don’t really know.”
But here’s what I rarely hear from clients in my life
coaching or clinical practice:
“I’ve claimed agency over my own spirituality.”
Rarely. And that’s heartbreaking, isn’t it?
You’ve probably heard the phrase floating around lately:
deconstructing religion. There are many definitions, but at
its core, deconstructing your religion is a deeply personal
process of examining the beliefs, practices, and assumptions you inherited
and deciding which ones still align with who you are becoming.
It’s not about destroying or abandoning your faith.
It’s about getting honest with it.
Think of it as holding your spiritual life up to the light and
asking:
• Is this belief mine, or was it handed to me
• Does this teaching bring me closer to love,
freedom, and integrity or does it create fear, shame, or
smallness
• What parts of my faith feel true in my heart, and
what parts feel like obligation, pressure, or conditioning.
At its core, deconstruction is a process of unlearning,
examining, and rebuilding.
So let me ask you, Do you have a spirituality that is meaningful to you?
I invite you to take out your journal and sit with these
questions. Sit with your Creator. Write down anything that
feels confusing, heavy, or hurtful. Let it come to the
surface.
And tune in tomorrow as we dive deeper in the newsletter.